From: stuv@cix.co.uk (Stuart Vernon) Newsgroups: alt.healing.reiki Subject: Musings Date: Thu, 26 Dec 2002 18:25 +0000 (GMT Standard Time) Lines: 91 Message-ID: Reply-To: stuv@cix.co.uk NNTP-Posting-Host: public2-bolt3-3-cust49.oldh.broadband.ntl.com (80.2.124.49) X-Trace: fu-berlin.de 1040927141 7272830 80.2.124.49 (16 [41161]) X-News-Software: Ameol2 X-URL: http://www.ameol.com Path: chonsp.franklin.ch!pfaff.ethz.ch!news-zh.switch.ch!news.imp.ch!news.imp.ch!fu-berlin.de!uni-berlin.de!public2-bolt3-3-cust49.oldh.broadband.ntl.COM!not-for-mail Xref: chonsp.franklin.ch alt.healing.reiki:1998 Whilst wandering around my broken hard disk with NTFSDOS, I came across this .. written by my RM ... enjoy ... and discuss ... ;) Stuart ++++++++ Falling In Love - Elaine Harris How many of us have experienced that magic, intoxicating feeling of 'falling in love'? Whenever we think of that special person our body goes all tingly and a huge smile spreads across our face. Everything seems to have a kind of rosy glow about it and the whole world is beautiful. We sparkle with health, and nothing is a problem. We are oblivious to any short-comings the other person might have, and it doesn't seem to matter whether they leave the cap off the toothpaste or not. In short, life has now been made perfect, we feel complete, a whole person for once. Then as time goes by this wonderful, magical feeling starts to wear off and we begin to realise things or see things that we never saw before, we start to become 'uncomfortable'. Perhaps after a time the relationship breaks up, or maybe we just 'put up with it' not wanting to cause any scenes, but whatever happens that feeling returns that we are no longer a whole person, we feel fragmented. Where did we go wrong, what changed? When we fall 'in love' with another person we are falling in love with a reflection of ourselves! Some of us might say that this is not true because they are so different to their partner, but, if our relationships are mirrors for us to learn from then this must be so. All those wonderful things that we first see in the other person are reflections of us which we haven't recognised or owned fully yet, that's why when we meet the other person we start to feel 'whole', because we begin to get in touch with another part of ourselves. When we say "I love you" to the other person what we should really be saying is "I love me"! The common mistake we make is when we identify the arrival of this person on the scene with our change in what we were feeling. We felt different, wonderful and whole and we charge them with the responsibility for making us feel good. Our problem arises when we continue to disown those parts of ourselves which are being reflected to us. When we continue to refuse responsibility for ourselves and think that we are not worthy of all these 'good points' we see in our partner. The other person's behaviour starts to change, and that is when that rosy glow begins to fade. They can no longer sustain or live up to your expectations of them and with you constantly charging them with the responsibility for your happiness you have the perfect recipe for disaster. How about doing this another way. How about falling 'in love' ....with yourself? ! This way you can experience that wonderful blissful feeling but without the need for another person to fill that gap. Receiving the ability to practise Reiki on yourself and others is a powerful step in falling in love with yourself. The activations which are given to enable to you to radiate this energy through your hands, involve the expansion of the Chakras - energy centres - in your body One of which is the Heart centre which is directly related with unconditional love and therefore to your ability to start loving yourself unconditionally. Often people find that profound changes occur in the way they perceive themselves and others just as a result of these activations. Regular self treats too are an enormous benefit. The act of setting time aside and treating yourself is beginning to affirm to yourself that you are worth it. For some people this can be a difficult thing to do in the beginning, but believe me if you persevere it will pay off dividends. For those second degree practitioners out there sending Reiki to the affirmation - "To the perfect resolution of my relationship with my Self" - enhances everything you are already doing. Feeling whole within yourself is a wonderful place to be. Not only will you feel much better about yourself but you will find that those outside start responding to you in a very different way too. You become less involved or worried about what other people think about you and more able to respond to life instead of reacting to it.